Emotional over-functioning drives the competence trap

Summary: Do people always count on you to be the strong one? You might be stuck in the "competence trap." When you are always reliable and fix everyone's problems, people forget that you need help, too. This is called emotional over-functioning.

It puts a ton of quiet pressure on your nervous system. You end up doing all the emotional work for two people but only have the energy of one. Eventually, you feel completely drained because you are not a "self-charging battery." Remember, true strength doesn't mean carrying everything alone. It means having the courage to put down the weight that was never yours to carry.

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