Why Smart People Lose Arguments

Summary: Have you ever noticed that arguments are rarely about what started them? Whether it’s unwashed dishes or a missed text, most fights are really about wanting to feel heard and safe. Many smart, successful people try to "win" arguments like they are closing a business deal. But there is a hidden catch: when someone feels cornered, their brain's threat detector (the amygdala) takes over. Blood rushes away from the logical part of the brain, making them defensive. Winning the argument often means losing the connection with the other person. To communicate better, focus on making the other person feel understood instead of just proving you are right.

Source: Psychology Today URL: psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/total-self-trust/202605/why-smart-people-lose-arguments (opens in new tab)