Why You Can’t Rush Healing

Summary: Healing from trauma takes time, just like learning a difficult computer program. The author remembers people crying over Adobe Illustrator in the 1990s because it was so frustrating to learn. Therapy is very similar. If you go too fast, your brain gets overwhelmed and shuts down. If you go too slow, you might get bored and stop trying.

Therapists use a tool called "pacing" to keep you in a safe zone where you can handle your feelings. They also use "titration," which means taking small, brave steps into your pain and then stepping back to safety to rest. You can't rush healing. It is not about being fast; it is about learning to sit with your feelings without giving up.

Source: Psychology Today URL: psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communal-healing/202604/why-you-cant-rush-healing (opens in new tab)